What can I say? I like to talk about this topic. Yesterday, I was reading this paper. It had this man and woman article. It was actually reviewing this book title something about understanding man in particular. But the writer was more concerned about the fact that the author was basing its book on 20 yrs research ( I think it's 20 yrs). The writer was saying that his wife can easily write the same book. He thought that people should get it by now, the understanding man thing.

I think it is not so hard to understand man. It's just the part of getting it right makes it a little bit difficult. Women understand harder things faster but simpler thing slower. Because women multi task, simpler things is just too much to take. Our brains are so used with thinking about everything at the same time, to think about only one thing at one time is unheard of.

So now, I am trying to get it right. They say that men can only think about one thing at a time. That is why you cannot talk about so many things at one time with them. That explains the Huh? type of replies that we always get.

But we still need to get everything out anyway. This is where friends come in. My dearest was always saying to me that I have a lot of friends to entertain, but he does not have any. The only friends that he has are from work and maybe some from school. But the main things is he does not entertain them when he's with his family. And neither should I.

But you see, I have to. This is because I can't always talk about everything with you. Why? Because man cannot think about so many things at one time. And my friends can. It's not that I don't need you, it's just that women are chatty and they need to let it all out. Don't worry, my dearest. We don't talk about men, we talk about women. Shopping, movies, shoes and so many other things.
The important thing is, friends are just that to women. Important but maybe not as important as their spouses (who can be quite difficult at times)

Another reason is women communicate better with each other. It's like we have this sixth sense of knowing what we are going to talk about and understanding them. This explains the fact that we sometime talk in one syllable. We need only one word and we already know what it means without the long line of words to further explain. There are extremes that we do not have to speak any words but only by looking at each other is enough communication.

But men need explanations. They need to be told word by word about everything. The one-syllable thing will not work with them. So, for women to talk about one particular issue on so much longer lines of words is tiring. They get frustated easily because they are not used to talking so much about so little. That explains the abrupt stops to conversations such as Never mind! and Nothing!

Trust me. I'm doing this in order for all of us to try to overcome the differences that we all have for the purpose of better communications that hopefully, will eventually lead to lasting relationships.

For men, silence means peacefulness. But to women silence means confrontations. This is where men always get it wrong. Being silent means that we are mad at you guys and you will have to ask so that you know what is wrong. It does not mean that you also have to be silent so that you can enjoy the peace that silence brings.

But this is not always the case, it's just that almost 'always the case'.

So, men. Listen up. Try to ask when things are so quiet. Try to understand that some things maybe are wrong. The cause may not always be you, but most of the time it can be you if you just take things as it is. Related gay cumshots

Never stop for directions. This is another thing that we don't always get. It is said that men are supposed to be the guide on everything. So to admit being lost is like to admit being a failure. And of course, there is also the ego thing.

Maybe we can reach a truce here. What say you if you admit being lost and stop for directions and we applaude you for being a hero (we are not being sarcastic here). This is because we hate being lost too and we hate to see all the time that go to waste instead of spending it a little bit wiser. When you stop for directions, we do not get tense and we will not end up being sarcastic.
This should explains the sarcasms that you guys get when you don't stop and ask for directions.

Men need to 'get things in perspective' when they come back from work. The 30 minutes (sometimes longer) that you guys spend alone in your own space is just the things for you guys. But not for women. So many things happen in a day that makes us so eager to tell you all about it. That explains the pouring of words when you guys get home. It will be so much more if you have families.
The truth is, I am still trying to get this right. I still do not understand the space that you guys need always. Since women don't need it, it's bit harder to think of you guys who need it. I think the best way is for women to also get their own space at this time. So girls, create your own space. Then maybe we understand.

If I were to talk about this on and on, it will be a very lengthy discussion. This is just the tip of the iceberg. But I believe that communication is important, and by writing about this, maybe I can help those who are in dire need of understanding better communication.
And me too.